The author Ann Dally was the first woman to study medicine at St. Thomas’ Hospital in London, and she became a general practitioner in 1953 before going on to become a psychiatrist and author. If that sounds impressive, consider that she accomplished it while being a mother to six children.
She believed that if mothers were to be relieved of the pressure for perfection, the relationship between mother and child would be less stressful. Dally believed that such pressure was partially responsible for a number of mental health issues common among mothers, as evidenced by this book “Understanding: Coming to Grips With Moments of Inadequacy, Neurosis, Isolation, Depression, Masochism, Frustration”.
While recognizing childrens’ valid need for unconditional love, protection, continuity and reliability, she disputed that mothers were always the best, or only, source of these important things.